When you fall in love, the world becomes this fuzzy, golden, warm place full of tingles and dreams. You find yourself daydreaming about him when you should be working. You think his jokes are hilarious. You hang on every word he says. And then that magical day comes where you put on the most beautiful white dress that anyone has ever seen, and you practically sprint down the aisle to marry that incredible man that has stolen your heart. The one you want to have babies with. The one you want to grow old with. The one you want to spend every day for the remainder of your life snuggling with.
Then…it just happens. Jobs happen. Mortgages happen. In-laws happen. Finances happen. Kids happen. And suddenly, that near-perfect man that you once couldn’t spend more than an hour away from without physically aching, well, he becomes “that guy that forgot to take out the recycling and hasn’t fixed that shower rod yet even though I’ve been reminding him every day for three weeks.” THAT guy. And rather than him thinking of you as his gorgeous, amazing, near-perfect wife, you are now “that woman who nags me daily about the stupid shower curtain rod and hasn’t let me touch her in two weeks.” It just happens.
Marriage is hard, people. Not just hard, but really really insanely stupid-hard!
So what is the answer? Do we need to become perfect, selfless human beings in order to live a happy life? No. The answer is simple:
WE NEED TO BE REMINDED OF WHAT’S REALLY IMPORTANT.
Is the recycling really THAT important? No.
Is the broken shower curtain rod earth-shattering enough to cause bitterness and resentment? No.
But yet those are the things that we focus on.
So let’s change that. Together.
I HELP MARRIED COUPLES REDISCOVER WHY THEY FELL IN LOVE.
THEN I TELL THEIR LOVE STORY WITH MY CAMERA.
The session itself is not a typical photo session, it’s an EXPERIENCE to enhance your marriage. The desire is for you to spend a few hours stepping outside of everyday life, and being taken on a really great “first date” of sorts, with me as your cruise director. I get you two interacting. Having fun. Laughing. Playing. Talking. Opening up. Whispering sweet nothings. I want to see you two get handsy right there in the middle of the park, like you did when you were kids, not because you’re being told to but because you feel like for that brief moment in time, you are falling in love all over again. And nothing else matters but him. It’s you and him. You will never hear me say “kiss him.” Not once. I want this session to be 100% you. It should tell the story of who you are. Who you are together, and as individuals. Your personality and emotions cannot properly come through if you are being placed in poses that feel contrived and fake.
And then, not only do you walk away with the experience of having been reminded what’s truly important in life, but you have beautiful artwork to mount on your wall, so that every time you look up at that photo of him looking at you as though you are the most amazing creature he has ever seen, and you holding on to him as though your life depended on it,
YOU ARE TAKEN BACK TO THAT MOMENT.
Back to what truly matters. Every time you find yourself getting annoyed about that darn shower curtain rod, you look up at that canvas above your bed and find yourself thinking “Wow…I am so, so blessed to be married to a man who looks at me like that. He really is the most incredible man in the world.”
I do this because I am a true romantic. I do this because my heart melts every time I see a couple fall in love just a little bit more in front of my camera. I do this because I am a wife. A wife who has once looked at her husband with contempt and bitterness in her eyes, because he hasn’t put the laundry away in two weeks. I do this because whenever I’m feeling “life” creeping in on our joy, I look at our photo, and I see that man who is an incredible husband, daddy, provider, and friend. And I remember what truly matters.
We matter. Our love matters. Marriage matters.
Photographer Credit: The Lovely Diana Prunean <3